Fathering in Faith

So many of you already know a lot of our story, that Ramsey is an embryo adoption baby. It’s still wild to me that I still get a lot of “he looks just like you.” Or for those who knew all of us, “he looks just like Christina.” We sort of just lucked out with that one. The wild thing is we look nothing like Ramsey’s biological parents.

But even with that information, Ramsey really does remind me so much of Christina ❤️

So I simply wanted to make a post so Ramsey and I can look back later on all the ways I remember that he reminded me of his mom.

• Ramsey loves ranch dressing. I’m not a condiment guy at all. I really only use BBQ. Christina on the other hand? Born and raised in homemade ranch. The reason I thought to make this post was just yesterday Ramsey wanted ranch with his pizza and ate way too much ranch compared to pizza 😂
• He sticks his tongue out just like her. On Christina’s birthday, we made a post about it, but it’s so fun to see his facial expressions and the things he still carries from her.
• Being a homebody. This dude sometimes just wants to be at home, play with his pets and legos. Christina was the person who related to the meme where the cat is laying on her and she is on the phone and it says “sorry, I am really busy and I can’t go out.”
• Stubbornness. Enough said 😂
• Dancing when happy. I picked Ramsey up from his grandma’s today and he asks for a toy. I don’t say yes yet, but he starts happy dancing in excitement about the potential. Christina had lots of happy dances.
• His attachment to me was similar to his attachment with her. He was a momma’s boy through and through. Sometimes not wanting her to leave and be left with me haha. I know it’s expected that after a loss of a parent, the child attaches themself to the other. At the same time, I feel his love and clinging to me as if he’s giving that to her at the same time.
• His care for others. I’m not blind. Ramsey can be destructive and mean sometimes, but he also has shown such deep care for his family and peers. I have seen him and I’ve had teachers tell me how he goes to comfort someone who is crying. He doesn’t often express his grief to me although I talk to him about his Mommy daily, but he does show that he knows pain by comforting others. “He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. 2 Corinthians‬ ‭1‬:‭4‬ ‭NLT‬‬. Christina was so good at that. She had her own share of pain. An auto immune disease. Infertility. Me as a husband 😂 but in the midst of that, she sought out those who had similar pain and made it a point to pour into them.

I love this boy and his momma so much, and I’m thankful for the little glimpses of her I see in him every day.